One thing that irritates me as an ally is the assumption that because I am a girl who supports gay rights and wears rainbows, I MUST be a lesbian. This also applies to straight guys who support gay rights and are called gay because of it. I look forward to a future where labels “are for soup cans” and assumptions won’t be made about people’s sexual orientation because it won’t matter whether you like men or women. It can be very hurtful to call someone gay just because of their support for gay rights.
I hate when people think I’m gay just because I support human rights when I’m not into girls AT ALL
it hurts my Feelings when someone misidentifies me as A Lesbian because i support Gay Rights and like Rainbows and it hurts my Cisgender Heterosexual Feelings. i cannot believe that i, a Cisgender Heterosexual, am being Oppressed by being compared to and put at the Lowly Level of a Lesbian (because i Know Everything About Lesbians and Being A Lesbian) just because i, an GAY ALLY, Support Gay Rights and wear Rainbows. i’m going to go be A Dillweed on my Tumblr Dot Com Blog about People That i have Virtually No Understanding About But It’s Okay Because I Am An Ally And Allies Are Sacred To The Gays
Wow, and these people call themselves “allies”? You know what I did when I was labeled as a lesbian in school when my friends and I would participate in gay pride week? Me and my friends would laugh, then give each other a kiss on the mouth while the dickweeds judging us would walk away absolutely mortified. Some of us were lesbians, others were bi, and others were cis, but that shit didn’t matter. We were supporting our friends who were lgbtq and others like them, and that was what was important.
You want people to stop labeling others? Then stop throwing a fucking hissy fit at being called a lesbian. If it really doesn’t matter, then you shouldn’t even give a fuck.
have a camera date, where you just walk around fun places and take pictures of each other (kind of like an impromptu photoshoot). and then you’ll look back on that one spontaneous photo where their smile is just right and their body language says everything and you fall in love with them a little!
or better yet, a painting date! get canvases and cheap acrylics and some wine and make a night out of posing and painting ludicrous portraits of each other. talk! bond! play classical music! you’ll get tipsy and laugh about everything so it doesn’t matter if you’re terrible. smudge a little bit of paint on their nose because it’s cute (and acrylics will wash off of things so it’s ok)
go to a library! pick out a book for each other; it can be funny or profound or a collection of silly cat poetry! try not to talk and just giggle and whisper as you tug each other through the aisles. find a quiet place where you can drink coffee and tea and read to each other aloud (cuddling in over-sized sweaters optional but encouraged).
rake crunchy leaves and play-wrestle in them! you’ll get to see how adorable their red noses are! how real their laughter is! run around in the snow and afterwards make a fire pit to warm up and sip apple cider. comfortable silences! dramatic lighting! wow!!1